Mosaic Green
Do you dread being drawn into a discussion about your childfree status and the inevitable attempts by the childed to convert you? In the past I dreaded it. Now I relish it. I look forward to someone treading into that field of discussion.
I found that I dreaded the conversations because I felt that I had to justify my position…and I wasn’t prepared to do that. A part of me believed the myth that having kids was simply something everyone did and something I would inevitably end up doing. But I really didn’t want to. When I recognized that I didn’t desire to become a mother, I started writing down my reasons. (At this point, I would like to note that if you’ve made the decision to be childfree, you do not need to justify your position to anyone. I chose to write down my reasons so Icould justify it to myself and make a solid and informed decision on the subject.)
It’s important to know what you feel and know what’s important to you. Then and only then can you have conviction. With conviction comes confidence. Once you’re armed with conviction and confidence, you will no longer be intimidated by those asking judgmental questions. ~Gem Junkie
My Vacation to Paradise
Tuesday, 28 July 2009 11:19
Vacation to Paradise
Okay y'all, it's only taken me two and a half months, but here's the trip report for the vacation DH and I took to Virgin Gorda (British Virgin Islands). The only stipulation is that you have to keep this info. to yourselves…after all, we don't want everybody discovering this place and turning it into yet another tourist attraction and "family-friendly" vacation hotspot (i.e., overdeveloped, chaos, craziness, etc.).
Counter-Bingos 36-41
Tuesday, 23 June 2009 07:16
36. The world has always had problems. They aren’t any worse now than 100 years ago.
Actually, I believe that the world IS worse than it was centuries ago. 100 years ago nobody had the capability of destroying large segments of our planet with the push of a button. Too many people have the capability of mass destruction, and too many others are seeking that capability. Have you ever noticed how many people desire the power to DESTROY? Turn on the news. Look at all of the “adults” around the world toting guns and raising them in the air, firing them recklessly to prove how “strong and manly” they are. They are children in adult bodies. They don’t understand (nor do they CARE to understand) the dangers of the weapons that they so flippantly parade around with. They treat these deadly weapons like toys. These individuals have no respect for life. They aren’t mentally developed enough or civilized enough to understand the preciousness of each and every life. These are the same people who want bigger and stronger weapons because it will mean they are bigger and stronger people and can bully their way into getting anything they want from anyone they want. And if they ever get these weapons, they won’t have the maturity and good sense to refrain from using it. I weep for the future (and won’t bring a child into it to become of victim of madmen like these). ("When did the future switch from being a promise to being a threat?")
Counter-Bingos 31-35
Monday, 15 June 2009 07:31
31. You’re just being selfish.
Explain to me, if you will, how being more concerned about overpopulation, the state of the world as we know it, the environment, and the struggles of this potential child in said world is more selfish than giving in to biological urges, lack of proper planning and preparedness, and/or having kids because of reasons that all start with “I want…” Some people seem to think that those who choose not to have kids are doing so because we like our freedom too much, we like having lots of money, and we don’t want to sacrifice. These are benefits of being childfree, but they are not the reasons for it.
Counter-Bingos 26-30
Monday, 08 June 2009 06:12
26. But yours will be different (or the “it’s different when it’s your own” argument)!
Why will mine be different? Because I would be such a good parent? The truth of the matter is that I couldn’t be with my kid 24 hours a day. There are outside influences in this messed-up world and they are actively trying to undermine all the hard work I do (which would include the way I would raise my kids).
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